Man who photographs himself as a dead body.
How to photograph a black dog.
Flowers in beards? Wish I didn't get mine lasered off now….
Nine photos to prove that anti-feminists need feminism too.
If you're going through a quarter life crisis, her are some movies to help you through!
Man who photographs himself as a dead body.
How to photograph a black dog.
Flowers in beards? Wish I didn't get mine lasered off now….
Nine photos to prove that anti-feminists need feminism too.
When you first start a relationship things are hot and heavy. The cocktail of lust and love is a crazy-ass drug that gives you a massive kick. Nothing compares to the feeling of new found infatuation! Not even a good chocolate brownie or a new dress or a killer pair of shoes can compete with that feeling. That giddiness, that smile in your belly, the joy of getting dressed up for them, the ripple of excitement when you get a text from them, that moment when it becomes clear that they like you just as much as you like them. The kissing! Oh, the pleasure of kissing someone that you have thought about kissing since you first noticed them across that crowded room! Oh and the sex! The discovery. Like unwrapping a Christmas present. Ah that feeling is superb, but alas it cannot last!
Inevitably that butterfly in the stomach feeling subsides, along with the five-times-a-day lust fest. And at first it makes way for an even better chain of phases: The no-games phase, the falling-in-love phase, the sit on the couch together watching T.V phase and the snuggle phase. While these subsequent phases may lack the glamour of the initial courting phase they are just as fun and just as exciting. That is until they become the default setting.
Somewhere along the way things become stagnated. The couch becomes the third party in your relationship. You love each other. Madly. But sometimes even love can become a little yawn-worthy when it sits next to you on the couch all night farting. Where's the excitement? The thrill of the chase? The effort? It's all a sure thing. Want to have sex? Sure, why not. There's no seduction, no flirtation. No attempt to charm you knickers off. It's all too easy. So easy that it gets a little dull. Have sex? With you? Again? sigh. Well if I must. I think Erica Jong summed it up perfectly in her book Fear of Flying when she wrote: 'Even if you loved your husband, there came that inevitable year when fucking him turned as bland as Velveeta (processed) cheese: filling, fattening even, but no thrill to the taste buds, no bittersweet edge, no danger.'
I want to be wooed! I want to meet a tall dark stranger at a jazz bar and have him give me the eye. I want him to smile at me seductively over his whiskey glass and dip his fedora at me. Then when he gets up on stage to do his set he sings directly at me like he is making love to me with his brooding guitar riffs. By the time he's reached his last song I. Am. His. Afterwards he takes me wildly in the alleyway out the back and I don't even know his name. Is that so much to ask? I want love letters! I want first kisses! I want to feel that insane lustfilled hunger again!
The truth is that after you've been with the same partner for around eight years, your sexual desire for that person plummets considerably. Sure, you may still find them attractive, you may still find them funny and sweet and all that jazz, you may still love them dearly, but you may not feel the need (or any, at all) to rattle your dags and put out for them. But why? Why is it that monogamy eventually becomes sexual monotony? And why is it that men in relationships don't seem to lose interest in sex and therefore keep nagging for it?
Well personally I have always blamed kids (after kids come into the picture, your husband's penis has about as much appeal as a bag of dead puppies. Sad but true!). Yep kids, lack of exercise, headaches, a far too comfy couch and mornings. But it turns out that I can now blame monogamy itself for my lack of interest in getting freaky. That's right! According to a survey by Dietrich Klusmann, a psychologist at the University of Hamburg-Eppendorf in Germany, a woman's desire for sex with her long-term partner starts to plummet after the five year mark, whereas males tend to stay interested in sex with their long term partner for longer. Much longer. Yep men are pretty much happy to just have sex in general but women, we need excitement! We need variety! Interestingly, in the same study it was found that women who did not live with their partners, actually maintained a higher level of lust for them for much longer. I could see that. People are always way sexier when you don't have to clean up their filth.
Monogamy can be a challenge for both men and women but women are quicker to tire of it. This is believed to be because men are innately programmed to lust for the woman nearest to them, so they are pretty much always going to be interested in their monogamous partners. But seeing as us women tend to lose interest in sex with the same ol' man, we tend to just lose interest in sex all together. And what's worse, we start to think that there is genuinely something medically wrong with us. But there's not. We are just programmed to seek another mate. To find a new fella to sow our oats. Yep, monogamy is not what Mother Nature had in mind (turns out she was a bit of a slapper!). We are programmed to re-populate the earth and add to the gene pool by mixing things up and having one child with many, many different men.
The problem is that monogamy is quite convenient. I quite like my husband. He's nice. We have kids together. He makes me laugh and he's my best friend. He's like a cozy bed on a rainy night. He brings in the fire wood and I cook the dinner. I don't want to break-up with him just for the sake of excitement. I don't really fancy a one night stand or an affair. They both seem like a lot of work. I am not really about to go a doof the next hot piece of meat who gives me the glad eye and wakes up my hibernating libido. But gee, I'd really like to fall in love again! I am in mourning for the flirtations and first kisses that I will never have again!
But who really cares? So what if the sex has faded away a little? Who cares if the spark has gone? You love each other right? That's enough right? Well not always. The problem with monogamy becoming monotonous is that it can lead to a relationship breakdown. If your hubby isn't getting any and is suffering in silence it can lead to infidelity. So too for the woman who is bored of sex with her partner and secretly craves the excitement of a new lover. So What do we do? How do we survive monotonous monogamy?
If it's actually quality time you want with your lover then you may need to book it in. Get off the couch and out of the trackies! Get away from the kids and talk of chores. Get away from the T.V and away from the laptops. Turn off the phones! Talk. Laugh. Eat dinner. Walk on the beach. It's amazing how much you can love someone again just by taking domestication out of the equation and actually having a conversation.
Go out in a group
Going out with a group of friends can help you re-ignite the attraction you once felt for your partner. Seeing them interact with other people, seeing them talk to other women, seeing them dressed up nice. All of these things remind you of who you fell in love with.
Are you a busy body? Do you are your hubby never see each other? Are you always working or always with friends? Well then perhaps you could try staying home for a change. Sit by the fire, have a glass of wine and talk and make-out.
Talk about sex
Sometimes the best thing to do is be honest. If you see a hot guy at the store who made you wink, tell your partner! Tell him all about it. Encourage him to tell you about his fantasies. This opens up the relationship to a new area of arousal. You're not actually sleeping with anyone else but it's that outside stimuli that can help get the juices flowing again. You could even try role playing. He could be the hot plumber who came by today to fix the shitter. You could be the receptionist he saw at the dental surgery. Why not?
Sometimes going away for the weekend with just your lover is the best kind of medicine to cure a sex drought! Especially if you have kids! Dump the little cock-blockers on some willing relative for the weekend and go to a vineyard and re-kindle the spark.
Keep an arousal journal
If your problem is sex (not having enough, or not wanting it enough) it could help to keep an arousal journal. Is it an issue of timing? Are you a day person? Or perhaps a late night person? Keep track of when you feel horny by keeping a journal. It's not just for practical use, you don't have to have sex at those times. It just can be good to know that you do actually still feel arousal some times (and that you are not really a dried up old maid!). But if you do discover you are a lunch time lover perhaps you could arrange a lunch date for a treat?
An orgasm is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. If you are bored of sex with your partner have sex with yourself and go from there. You could even ask you husband to join in, if you want.
Men need to ejaculate. It is just the way it is. For women, orgasms are nice but they are just not as pressing. Sure there are some women who want to get one away all the time but men need to ejaculate like they need to breathe and eat and sleep. If they do not they get very grumpy. So, if you are not at all interested in having sex with you long term parter then you need to be open to the fact that he will need to masturbate and/or watch porn. Some guys are fine with masturbation alone, others still prefer the real deal. Some women actually send their husbands to a prostitute. Yep. They are so uninterested in sex (and so emotionally secure) that they'd rather their husband be "taken care of" by a professional who uses protection, than be tempted to have an affair which could potentially break up the family. Makes sense. Kinda.
Sex is kinda like going for a run. The idea sometimes seems like a lot of work. The thought is sometimes exhausting in itself. But just like a run, you're always glad you did it, afterwards. Sometimes the best thing to do is, just do it.
Write an erotic novel - together!
It could be hilarious. It could be ridiculous. It could be a best seller! Or it could make you rabid for each others naked bodies! Go on! Turn off Graham Norton and start writing about quivering members.
If your boredom is purely sexual and you are both game, why the heck not!? Go on get freaky! There are heaps of websites for swingers and hell, you could probably just use Tinder. Just don't pull out the key bowl at family Christmas. That could get awkward.
"How hypocritical to go upstairs with a man you don't want to fuck, leave the one you do sitting there alone, and then, in a state of great excitement, fuck the one you don't want to fuck while pretending he's the one you do. That's called fidelity. That's called monogamy. That's called civilization and its discontents.” - Erica Jong, Fear of Flying.
All images by our favourite photographer Connie McDonald.
Dinosaurtoast attracted us by the name…. What does it mean? We got to catch up with Ashley Church the photographer, creative director, artist and brains behind the photography label dinosaurtoast to hear what she's been up to. We were drawn to her bright, vibrant style and we always love chatting with successful, creative women.
Waffles & New York Pizza
Mapei – Don’t Wait
Where do you live?
Well, my good friend just got a pug puppy and I’m his Aunty… So yes! He hangs out at the studio with us all day and chews on my shoelaces. He’s very cute. His name is Lemmy. I also have a cat that lives at home with Mum and Dad. He’s rad. He’s nearly 14. He’s talkative!
Do you consider yourself a feminist?
Yep totally do. I am apart of a bad ass all girl art collective called Holla Graphix and in a recent interview we got asked this question as a group. It was really interesting hearing everyone’s take on feminism and what it meant to each of the Holla gals.
The all girl collective was born out of one of the girls, Pinky Fang, asking an ex to be in an all male art collective and getting told no because she was female. There was a general consensus that equality between the sexes hadn’t been achieved to the level we wished it had by now, but that equality of the sexes wasn’t as brushed under the carpet as it was in the 50’s-60’s.
For me personally, I totally believe women and men should be equals. I however also believe the word “feminist/feminism” has taken on some negative connotations due to the riots & stereotypes associated with the word from history past. Maybe we as females should come up with a new word?
What makes you get up in the morning?
Coffee. Haha! Lucky Wellington has an abundance of great coffee makers and coffee beans.
Oh and of course creating art for a living. Choosing my own schedule.The fact that I’ve been working for myself for 6 months now and I’ve been able to eat and pay my rent is my definition of success at present and I truly love it. I love being able to say yes to creative projects and collaborations. I’m totally driven to get out of bed and do something each day because it’s my breakfast on the hook if I don’t.
Another cool thing I’ve noticed working for myself is I never have Monday-itis anymore! Every Monday rules!!!
Where does your creative inspiration come from?
A few places, actually! My artist Granddad, my friends, my family and travelling!
My granddad a world-renowned sculpture artist who totally changed his career and started making larger than life size bronze sculptures when he was 55 years old. He was very successful following his passion, which gives me the drive to continue doing what I love to.
Xoe Hall – A good girlfriend of mine (we share a studio) inspires me everyday. She’s been a “full-time” artist, muralist and glitteriest for about 10 years now and I get to work alongside her!!! Lucky me!!!
My partner Dave is a fellow artist/musician and he’s constantly drawing and designing new designs for his T-shirt business Thirteen. He keeps me on my game, questions my motives and shows me what real determination is. He is very supportive of me doing what I love.
So I guess people, people inspire me the most. People & travel and the thought that I could potentially not be here tomorrow so gotta make the most of everyday. (Sorry for the cheese but it’s true).
What drew you to the Pop Art style in particular?
I’ve always loved pop art! I focused my whole 7th form art board on Roy Lichtenstein and his Benday dots. I guess the bold artistic expression, standing out from the crowd and bright colours draw me to the pop art style. It’s what comes naturally to me.
Where does the (super cool!) name dinosaurtoast come from?
Not telling ;-)
Grrrrrr……One day we will find out!!
Do you have a favourite(s) project you have worked on?
Many, many projects! So many of my fashion shoots as each shoot is totally different, the vibe/mood and the people involved in creating it…
Just to name a few:
- The Pop Rebellion with Xoe Hall,
- Girl. Exhibition put together by Becca O’Shea, Sarah Burton and myself!
- Deuce and a Quarter shot at Greenmantle Estate – an idea I creative directed.
- I Love Paris Shoes campaign that I also creative directed from start to finish.
- I photograph a lot for Wellington’s Capital Magazine as well, the photo projects are always fun and a cool way to meet new people & see new places!
I’m working on a few collaborative projects and installation pieces at the moment that are also very exciting and pushing me in new directions! Can’t wait to see where they take me.
At Le Petite Mania, we have many discussions with creative women - what have been the ups and downs of working in the creative industry?
Ups – Inspiring others to create or do something with their creative flare. Or just to simply start doing something. I love when my photography allows another artist/designer to notice, acknowledge and appreciate something they’ve personally made/designed/spent a lot of time working on themselves.
Definitely meeting other creative people and collaborating with them has been an up as well. So many amazing creatives in Wellington, seriously we are lucky to live here!
Downs – People taking advantage of you or undervaluing your job, under appreciating the value that art brings to a community, wanting work done for free.
How did you get your name out into the big wide world after you finished studying?
Worked hard, made lots of work, built up a portfolio, networked, networked, networked. Chose a name that set me apart and was a bit memorable. Collaborated with other artists. Taught myself how to be business and social media savvy. Got in touch with the people who were doing what I wanted to be doing and asked them how they got there. Asked for constructive criticism on my work so I could improve my technique, I am always learning new things. We never stop learning!
I wasn’t afraid to try new things, even if I was I would push myself out of my comfort zone as you never know what you will come across or who you will meet. I had many goals in mind and made small steps towards fulfilling them.
Have fun with what you’re doing, if you love what you’re doing others will love it too and talk about it!
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Now, I might be old (late 20's) - or married - or whatever, but what is Tinder? I keep hearing about it? Like a whisper on the wind. I know it's something about dating but I can't remember what a date is so how can I relate? I Googled it and found out that it's an app that hooks you up with potential suitors near you through Facebook and GPS. Is this safe? Is it a sex fest? I need to know more!
I got in touch with a friend that has been using it so she could enlighten me and here's what she had to say:
"Tinder is a personal ad / findsomeone on steroids that needn’t contain any written information (if you don’t want it to – you can write a wee profile about yourself, or tell a joke, or whatever you want). It has to be setup linked to a Facebook account and the photos you use come from your Facebook account. If you have mutual friends, this will show, as does your first name and any groups or interests that you have selected on FB that are mutual. Otherwise it doesn’t show anything else. If you have mutual friends, this definitely assists with face stalking the person and of course is a good way to start off a conversation and giving you an idea that they might be alright seeing as you know the same people.
It is free. You swipe left to ‘like’ someone (or press the heart key), or right to ‘not like’ someone (or the X key). If you both like each other then you can being messaging each other. There is no rejection when someone swipes the other way, they simply just won’t show up as a ‘connection’ or ‘match’.
I have made a couple of friends which is cool. One guy was just a running buddy as we had started seeing other people and he comes to my pub quiz now – definitely no spark there. I have met a guy that was only after one thing. I met a guy that I thought could work out, but then he dumped me. I dated a farmer that I would otherwise not have met as he lives 100km away. I dumped him. I met a guy who was really short, like really short, so we only had the one coffee. I’ve dated short people before, it was more about the rambling and uncomfortable coffee we had than anything. I’ve had a few matches where the guy is straight up that they’re looking for a good time, at which point you can delete them if that is what you want.
You can filter your search by an age range (minimum of 5 years) and location, anywhere from 2km to 100miles (whatever that is in kms). There is also an option of male or female, but no filter for sexual preference, as in straight, gay, bi etc.
It’s fast, you don’t have to create anything (you can change your photos around if you like, normally first photo is your FB profile pic, but you might want to change this for anonymity if the person face stalks you, or you just want a different picture. I read an article where it says that girls get more hits for first picture being a full body picture, so I changed my photo to one where I had been diving in a wetsuit, got a lot more matches. It is amazing how many guys go fishing and hunting – most of their pics are with a fish or pig/deer in hand. First impressions count - for me, anyone with a child, pulling the fingers, weird selfie pic (surely you can do better than that for a first picture), lots of tattoos are an immediate no. Also, if the person only has group photos, how can you tell which one they are?! Swipe No. I have a friend who has started an album with guys tinder pics and them with cats titled ‘men of tinder and the cats they love’. It’s no seedier or superficial than meeting someone in the pub.
While you would like to think you are being yourself, the ability to hide behind an app and think about your messages can definitely lead to what I would call un-natural conversations or replies/responses. Not intentional, but is normal to over analysis and think about what you are going to say when given the chance to. I think it is best to meet up asap rather than spends weeks messaging back and forth, somewhere safe of course, and don’t limit yourself to a coffee date with one Tinder-in-shining-amour. There is no harm in meeting multiple people, so long as you’ve set your own boundaries of when you cut the other person or people off.
Also, when rejecting someone it is just as easy to hide behind the app. A little bit of honesty goes a long way, and hey, you might be back on the Tinder horse sooner than you think. Although I am guilty of the old just stop messaging or texting if I’ve exchanged numbers – just sucks when it happens the other way around!"
Very interesting. I love living vicariously through my single friends! I also found this article on Stuff that could be helpful if you are considering using Tinder.
Note: after publishing this article, my other friend sent me through a screen shot of a convo she had with someone on Tinder. She wanted y'all to know that Tinder is waaaaaaaaaayyyyyy sleazier than meeting someone at the pub!
Now breaking up is hard to do - but I'm not talking about breaking up with a boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or husband. I'm talking about breaking up with a FRIEND. Instead of my friends nursing me through breaking up with boyfriends, it is my husband who nurses me through broken friendships. He brings me cups of tea and consoles me that the particular friend made me feel like shit and always stood me up. I have trouble with friendships. I make 'em and then I break 'em. I think my problem being that I am too honest when I am angry or hurt.
Don't get me wrong, I can keep friendships - ask my friend Lisa Jarrett who made me eat play dough in kindy, or my friend Hayley who stole beer for me out of her dad's fridge. In fact ask Lisette - although I am suspicious that Lisette and I are only still friends because we know too much about each other to ever break up. I just seem to lose more friendships then I keep. I have passionate friendships that end in heartache. Is this normal? Do you have to keep every friend you ever make? And should it be such a big deal to say to someone: "I don't want to be your friend anymore because I've decided that I don't actually like you."
Making a new friend feels to me like dating - you meet, you like each other, you text, you go out for coffee, they come round, you have fun, you go to a movie and then they confuse you and treat you like shit and you break up. Then you cry and say, "What is wrong with me?"
The bottom line is that friendships are relationships and relationships are complicated. The problem with friendships though is that there isn't a clear rulebook - how often should you see each other? How much should you put up with? What should you expect from a friendship? How do you build a quality friendship that will last the distance?
I'm just gonna put it out there - girls/ladies can be nasty pieces of work and having grown up with two brothers, I often struggle to understand these fascinating creatures. Why say one thing when you mean another? Why talk behind my back when you could say it to me? Why are you so nice to my face when I know it is fake?
Do you know what though? Nothing beats a great friend and maybe you have to go through a few to find out who those special someones are…….
We all know that feeling, when you wake up in the morning after a night of boozing and think "Never Again."
New Zealand has an interesting alcohol culture and Le Petite Mania has discussed this before. Lisette in particular found it really interesting when she went on her OE to see how different cultures drank alcohol. She was surprised at how boozy New Zealanders seemed compared to places in Europe.
To me, alcohol is like a Frenemy. You think that they are nice, fun, sophisticated, loving and have your back but really they don't care about you and can often make your life difficult. They secretly try to sabotage you and they leave you feeling a bit crap - or a lot crap.
So when I saw Lotta Dann on 'Sunday', I was really intrigued. To give up the booze, she started an anonymous blog called 'Mrs D is Going Without.' The blog was a huge success so Lotta did something super brave - she came out as herself to the big wide world. The thing about Lotta is that she is so relatable - she is cute and funny and a mum and a wife - and an alcoholic. But the reason she is so relatable at the end of the day is because so many women have tumultuous relationships with alcohol.
I was excited to catch up with Lotta Dann as she has a new book out titled 'Mrs D is Going Without.' I can't wait to get my copy and sit down (with a cup of tea!) and soak it all up.
LPM: Favourite color?
LD: Green. Just painted my kitchen Resene's 'Tree Frog'. Look it up, it's neon green.
LPM: Star sign?
LPM: Favourite TV show (if you have time to watch any!)
LD: Real Housewives of New York or Beverley Hills. (Not the OC or Jersey..)
LPM: How scary was it to 'come out' as an alcoholic?
LD: Very scary coming out to the wide world through the media interviews organized by my publishers to plug my book. I was very nervous just because it was so exposing (to masses of people I don't know all at once). But I 'came out' as a problem drinker to people around me the minute I gave up. Right from the get-go I was brutally honest and said to friends and family 'I've stopped drinking because I can't control it'. It was part of my process.. strip myself back to the truth. I was sick of having this hidden problem.
LPM: We are major bookworms at Le Petite Mania. Are there any good books you would recommend to someone trying to quit drinking?
LD: There are some great memoirs ("Unwasted: My Lush Sobriety" by Sasha Scoblic and "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp to name just two). But the two best books for really getting inside my head and helping to kick-start my brain retraining were Jason Vale's "Kick the Drink, Easily!" and Allen Carr's "Easyway to Stop Drinking". Those dudes are persuasive.
LPM: When Mrs D became Lotta Dann, what kind of reaction did you get?
LD: Overwhelmingly positive. Lots of people saying I'm brave and amazing (they don't realise that talking about the beast in my brain helps me diminish its power). Also hundreds and hundreds of people have reached out to me privately (through email and private Facebook messages) to confess they're 'just like me'. It's been intense, heartening, heartbreaking (at times) and very strengthening. I just so want people like me to know that they're not alone. There are so many of us and the more that we talk to each other the better.
LPM: Why did you decide to quit on your own using your blog rather than go to somewhere like AA?
LD: I think because I'd been quite alone in battling my addiction when I was trying to moderate.. I set out to battle my new mission to live sober on my own as well. I started blogging because I'd been writing letters to myself in the lead-up to quitting. I thought the blog would be a series of letters to myself that no-one would ever read. If the wonderful community of support hadn't grown around my blog I probably would have gotten myself to meetings… being able to share your experiences with a like-minded community of people who 'get it' (addicts) is vital.
LPM: What is your message to women who are trying to cut back or give up the sauce?
LD: Don't hide from the truth. Believe that change is possible. Find your community. Know that you will get to a place where you don't miss it at all.
LPM: After you quit drinking, how did you go at parties and places you would normally drink alcohol?
LD: At first I felt like a total freak, uncomfortable and weird and very out of place. But the more I went out the more I realised I could find the fun in all the elements that were inherent in the event, and not in the liquid that was in my glass. Also that no-one else gave a toss if I was drinking or not.
LPM: How is your life different now that alcohol is no longer a part of it?
LD: I'm healthier, happier, calmer. I love my new sober life, heaps.
LPM: This might not seem relevant but we are starting to ask all our interviewees this question: Do you consider yourself a feminist? Why? Why not?
LD: If being a feminist means believing that all women are amazing and powerful and strong and vibrant and special and precious and worth the highest regard and equal rights to men then yes, I'm a feminist.
LPM: It must take a lot of courage to do what you have done. Are you scared that you will ever start drinking again?
LD: Nope. I will never ever touch alcohol again my entire life. It has absolutely nothing to offer me that I don't already have. It does not help me have fun, it is not capable of relaxing me, it does not help me deal with my emotions, it does not enhance my vibrancy or increase my worth, it tastes horrible and wastes precious dollars I could be spending on fresh flowers.
LPM: You have quite a high profile husband. What role has he played in helping you give up alcohol? What about your kids? What do they say about it all?
LD: Corin has been like a pillar of concrete standing beside me, supporting me while I transitioned from being a miserable boozy housewife into a self-respecting sober woman. He never criticized me for stopping drinking or tried to tell me what to do. He has just listened and listened and listened and supported me in what I was doing. He's been perfect in his steadfast support/hands off attitude because in truth there was nothing much he could do other than stand by and be supportive. It was me that had to do the 'getting sober' myself. Only the drinker can stop the drinker drinking (if you know what I mean).
The kids know that mum doesn't drink alcohol because she can't control it.. and dad does because he can. They are going to grow up knowing that there is an element of danger surrounding alcohol (as well they should because there is). What they choose to do regarding alcohol when they are adults is up to them but at least we know we have sent them out into the world with all the facts.
Lotta Dann's book is available at all good bookstores and you can check out her interview on Sunday here.
Feminism has been coming up a lot at Le Petite Mania headquarters. Can you be a feminist when you want to wear pretty clothes and bake cookies? Can you be a feminist when you are a stay at home mum? Can you be a feminist when you enjoy wearing make up? Our answer is yes, yes and yes. We are still coming to terms with what it means to be a feminist in the year 2014. Would you like to explore this concept with us?
From now on, we will ask every woman we interview whether they consider themselves a feminist and why. We consider ourselves staunch feminists and we hope our articles about make-up and clothes don't detract from our beliefs about empowering women. Lisette and I however LOVE clothes and make-up. We consider our clothes a form of creative expression and we care about looking after our skin and using only natural face care products.
If you are interested in being interviewed and answering a short survey about your take on feminism in the year 2014, please do not hesitate to get in touch firstname.lastname@example.org. We are itching to find out what other women think and feel about this topic.
We also have an exciting book project that is currently in the making titled 'Creativity and Feminism'. We have some amazing women writers involved and we can't wait to get it out into the big wide world! Yipee!
If you are a woman writer and are keen to be involved, we still have a couple of spots available for special someones! Get in touch!
Faking your period and getting a fake period party!
Things you want your daughter to know about sex.
Thicke is a total fuckwit - but we knew that already!
Who's in charge of women's bodies?
It's back to the 70's ladies! Getting your colours done is back with a vengeance. What am I? A Winter? A Summer? A Spring? I know I don't suit black but it's so bloody slimming. What should I do?
Today was the first step on my style journey. I have got myself a style guru by the name of Liz Mitchinson from Style Clinic and she is going to help me sort out my style. This is a process. We will meet more than once, go shopping together and Liz will come to my home to help me with my closet. Do I really need that look from 1999?
I love fashion but I have a big bum, big boobies, a short upper body and much longer legs. AND I'm short - my God I'm short. 5 foot 1 on a good day. What is a girl to do? My figure can be hard to dress. I buy things I love and then never wear them again. My closet is literally bursting at the seams and my husband now has one drawer and 1/17th of a closet because I am taking over.
After staying out with the girls until 2am last night, I dragged my butt to Liz's glamorous studio and sat down to be pampered. She gave me a facial then draped me with colours. Black is not for me - turns out that black isn't as slimming as I first thought! Brown is my new black and ivory is my new white. I need to wear gold instead of silver (I already knew that because I am an expensive woman).
At the end of today's consultation, I'd had my make-up done and found out that I am a 'High Contrast Spring Woman.' The exciting thing is that I got to bring home my swatch so that when I go shopping in future I can take it with me to help with colour picking. It fits nicely in my small handbag.
I'm super excited about my journey and since NZ Fashion Week is coming up in August, I want to be able to dress my best for the shows (preferably in New Zealand designers!). Next time Liz Mitchinson and I meet, we will do my proportions and that will help me pick styles, fabrics and shapes to wear that suit me best. Watch this space! #fashionista